New Year New Me

Last year was a rough year for me and the kids to. We had to get used to a new "normal".  The divorce was alot harder than i thought it was going to be for me emotionally. By all means it is what i want but it was still sad that the family unit was breking up. Though B and i had our rounds in court. Which was hard. I decided at the first of the year that none of our issues matter what really matters is doing what is right for the kids. So he and I had a real true adult conversation last friday night and laid it all on the table. What i expected and what he expected and we came to a compramise. He is going to do his best to help out with the child support (yes he is behind) and other things the kids may need and he was going to try his hardest to see the kids once a month. He is taking them for  a few days this weekend except for baby lo he is still to little. I am also meeting his new girl friend too. People have asked if i am going to be nice to her..... The answer is yes. i see  no reason to be mean to her. She seems like a very nice person and I also do not want my children to see me be mean to her, because i do not want them to be mean or hateful to her.Our new normal has been going really well. The kids have done really well with the divorce i think that they even knew B and I were not happy. Noah asked the other day if i was married this is a first. I told him no mommy and daddy made better parents then married... He said yeah we did no more fighting. Wow kids know so much more than we give them credit for!